Those are words that no mom wants to hear. But, those are words that I’ve heard several times over the last few months. Apparently, because Roo doesn’t gain weight, she has been labelled with Failure to Thrive. If you saw her in person, you wouldn’t think twice that this was a problem. She’s a healthy looking baby. But, she doesn’t gain weight. We saw her nutritionist yesterday for her weight check. She only gained 0.23 kilos in 9 weeks. That’s not enough. She is 11 months (adj. about 9 months 2 weeks) and weighs 15.59 pounds and is 26.02 inches long.
I kept it together at the hospital but as soon as I got into the car, I cried. I feel like a failure as a mom. I wasn’t able to keep her inside of me long enough to grow strong and healthy. And, I’m not able to provide enough nutrition to help her gain weight outside of me.
If she doesn’t gain an “appropriate amount of weight” (whatever that means) by August 7, I will have to start pumping and fortifying my breast milk like I did when she was first born. The thought of doing that again makes me ill. But, I would do it if it means she will gain weight.
Roo is a healthy eater. She loves to eat. She loves to nurse. I don’t know why she isn’t gaining weight. She eats as much as the other kids in our mommy group, so I know that I give her more than enough food. I pretty much feed her until she holds out her hand to say no and clamps her mouth shut. She makes it clear that she is done. I’m not going to force feed her (actually, she is so stubborn, it would be IMPOSSIBLE, LOL!).
I mix butter into her fruits and veggies when I prepare them. I give her whole milk yogurt. I am going to start adding coconut milk to her diet. I don’t know what else to do. I’m at a loss. I’m sad.
Look at my cute, chubby-cheeked baby girl! I don’t think she looks like she needs to be labeled with failure to thrive.
Did you have a child with this label? What did you do? What was your trick to getting him/her to finally gain weight? Is there something else we should be looking at?