Day 3 Hospital Bedrest: Update on Deceleration in Heart Rate


After last night’s scare with Roo’s heart rate decelerating so quickly, I was very anxious to speak with the high risk OB and get monitored again this morning.

Apparently, they didn’t seem as concerned as I was (of course).  Before I say anything more I want to say that I’m very pleased with the care that we are getting and the team who has been assigned to us.  We are lucky to be in a hospital with a highly rated team and I know that I need to trust that they have our best interest in mind.  I’m also not afraid to speak my mind and ask questions over and over again as needed.

Ok, back to the topic.  The doctor said that Roo’s heart deceleration was the cause of her laying on her umbilical cord.  It is a common occurrence in babies at this stage because they are more and more active as they mature but because there is not a lot of fluid since my water broke when they roll on the cord, it cuts off the blood flow and therefore lowers the heart rate.  She said that if the heart rate didn’t go back up or it was happening multiple times during the two hours of monitoring after the deceleration that they would have done a “crash c-section” and taken her out.  However, they feel that with the additional monitoring that she was doing great.

I have been monitored twice today so far for extended periods of time and there have been no incidence with Roo.  I on the other hand have been having more frequent contractions though I’m still not feeling them.  They aren’t concerned about them and said they won’t be until I start to complain about the pain.  So far no pain!!

We are still aiming for June 30 or 35 weeks!!!

In other news, we have been moved into our “permanent” room here at the hospital.  I’ve been signed up to participate in the knitting group (I’ve always wanted to learn how to knit) and the antepartum moms group, which meets on Wednesday.  That group is a meeting of other moms in the ward who are in the same position as we are – it’ll be nice to meet others who are going through this with me.  There is also someone who comes into give pre-natal massages and mani/pedis.  I’m excited 🙂

I’m not sure I’ve ever given you the medical term of what happened to me.  The term is called pregnancy premature rupture of membranes (pPROM).  It apparently is more common than I would have know and I guess I never got far enough in my books to learn about it.  Now, if you hear about PROM in pregnancy you know what it is.  I had NO idea that this should be a concern of mine.

MH went home for the second time since we’ve been here.  We left so quickly the other night and never imagined that we wouldn’t be back home that I didn’t pack a bag of ANYTHING.  So, I sent him home with a list of a few things.  I can’t wait for him to get back so that I can take a shower and wash my hair.  It’s been a few days and I look like a mess.  MH’s boss came by today and dropped off lunch and I was embarrassed that I look so horrible – no make-up, no shower since Wednesday and my hair is a bird’s nest.  Agh!

I’m starting to settle into the idea that this is a very good thing for us.  We need to stay here and Roo will be fine!

The one thing that I do realize is that if we were still in San Francisco or back on the East Coast that we would be supported tremendously by family and friends.  But being new in this city is an entirely different challenge.  We aren’t able to have that support.  Luckily, the support that we are getting from our new friends is better than none and I’m grateful!

I’m also grateful for your support and encouragement.

xo,

Michelle

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Day 2: Hospital Bedrest


Well, we “survived” the first 24 critical hours after my water broke.  As you can imagine, yesterday was a VERY emotional day.  I cried more than I have in years but I am feeling 100% much better today.

Last night was a rough night.  We had been placed in a labor and delivery room when we first arrived and had a KICK ASS nurse!  Her shift ended at 8pm and the nurse who replaced her was nice but not as great.  The first thing she told us was that we were being moved and we needed to pack up our things.  So we did and then we waited and it wasn’t until 11pm that we got moved.  I was EXHAUSTED since I had been awake since my water broke and all I wanted to do was go to sleep.

After moving, I thought that we’d get to sleep the whole night (MH was given a full size cot to sleep on, which was nice).  Boy was I wrong.  At 2am, they needed to give me more antibiotics and check my vital signs and then they needed to wake me up again at 5:45am for my second steroid shot.  After then 2am antibiotics, we didn’t get to sleep right away again because the IV tower alarms when the medication is done and then we have to notify the nurse.  It was during the 25 minute wait for the IV meds to be done that I completely fell apart.  MH is seriously the best husband in the world.  He said all the right things.  He did all the right things and I can’t imagine going through this with anyone else.

This morning we met with two different doctors.  They both are optimistic that as long as we keep infection at bay and I don’t go into active labor that I will be able to stay here for a long time.  Their goal is to get me to 35 weeks, when I will deliver her.  I’m 32 weeks tomorrow, which means I only need Roo to hang in there for 3 more weeks.  Roo, we can do it!!!  It’ll be our first Mommy and Me adventure!

So, I wait. I seriously wish I had more friends here to help us.  But we don’t and so we are relying on the kindness of our few new friends and MH’s colleagues.  If any of you live in or around Seattle, let me know I would love some company!  Also, we will be in need of preemie clothes.  If you have any to donate or lend, I’ll pay for shipping to here and back, if you want them back.

THANK YOU ALL for your love and support yesterday.  It means the world to me!!!  I’ll keep you all posted!

xo,

Michelle

 

Update: Freaking Out


On call doc just called me back and said to wait an hour and go to hospital if I’m still leaking.   I went to change my pad and it was soaked all the way through to my undies.

MH woke up and I told him what is going on and we’re heading to hospital now (not going to wait an hour).

Keep me and Roo in your thoughts.  Not sure when I’ll be able to update again.  Of course, my phone battery is low…

Thanks, girls (and guys)!

xo,

Michelle

Freaking Out…


I have a call into the On Call doctor.  It’s 3am in Seattle.  I woke up about an hour ago to a gush of fluid.  I thought maybe I’d peed my pants.  I laid back down and some more fluid is leaking.  I put a panty liner on and it’s very damp though not soaked through – it’s been an hour.  Argh!  Something more for me to worry about…I hope the doctor calls me back soon.

To Pump or Not To Pump, That Is the Question


Currently, I’m pretty much a stay-at-home wife.  Yes, I put in a few hours at PB for the discount and to get out of the house.  Yes, I plan to keep on freelancing and consulting but I’m in a rut about that and have put it on the back burner until after Roo arrives and I’m settled into a mommy routine, etc.  But at the moment, I will be a stay-at-home mom for the first few months.  Afterward, I’ll probably still be stay-at-home as I want to keep working from home.  The likelihood of me going back to PB even with the same amazing hours a week that I have right now is pretty slim.  I get paid $10 an hour, which wouldn’t even cover childcare costs!

I plan to exclusively breast feed Roo.  In my mind, exclusively breast feed means I will nurse her myself and/or have breast milk in a bottle available to her.  I hope to do it for at least a year.  I’ve read and heard that nursing for a minimum of one year has the greatest health benefit.  I am aware that I may not be a successful breast feeder: she might have a lot of trouble with nursing or my breasts might not produce enough for her to get enough nutrition.  I also know that my circumstances may change and the goal of exclusively breast-feeding may not be possible.  In other words, I have my goal in mind but I’m aware of the challenges that I might face and am willing to accept that formula feeding entirely or at some times might be necessary.  I’m ok with it.  Being adopted, I was exclusively formula fed and I’m completely perfect 😉

So, why would I need to get a breast pump?  I really want MH to have the chance to bond with Roo through feeding her.  I want him to experience that quiet, one-on-one time with her that I’ll get.  Plus, I want to be able to leave Roo with a babysitter so that MH and I can go to dinner or if I want to have some time at the spa or another location where infants are not allowed.  (I can’t wait to be a mommy but I also know how important it is to make marriage and alone time also a priority).  I can’t imagine leaving Roo with someone else for the first couple or few months but I know there will come a time where I will want and need to do so.  Pumping will allow other people to feed Roo.

In looking at the various pump options, I’m overwhelmed.  Also the price of these things is over the top!  Some breast pumps cost more than cribs!  There is the manual pump and then there is the electric pump.  There is the single pump and then there is the double pump.  There are open systems and there are closed systems – not exactly sure what the heck that means but I think it only really matters when it comes to “sharing” a pump.

Since I only want to have pumped milk available for Roo about once a day, I’m so confused by what I should get especially since the expense of a pump is pretty high.  So, I decided that in the ideal world, I would buy a double, electric pump on a budget – but there really isn’t that option.  I was told that getting a hand pump is only really helpful once someone is an accomplished breast feeder, so I automatically took that off my list.

There are two brands that I decided to exclusively consider: M.edela and A.meda.  M.edela seems to have a market share in breast pumps with two very popular styles: Pump In Style and the Freestyle.  I know a lot of people who have one or the other of these two and like them both for various reasons but also dislike them for various reasons.  A.meda seems to be less popular but has very positive reviews (in fact, I have found it has fewer negative reviews but that could be because it is less popular).  One large difference between these two brands is the type of system that they have: M.edela has an open systems and A.meda has a closed system.  Apparently, a closed system makes it the ONLY breast pump approved by the FDA to safely re-sell without health and cross contamination concerns.  All hospital-grade pumps are closed systems – which I think means that breast milk cannot cross over into any part of the actual pump, just the tubing, which can easily be replaced with new tubing.

Since a breast pump except for a hand pump with a doctor’s prescription is available to me through my insurance company, I’m stuck buying a breast pump on my own.  (I was told to purchase one ahead of time and NOT at the hospital as the ones sold through the hospital are the same brands sold at stores but at twice the price!)  I decided to try to find an A.meda pump on Craig’s List since the one I chose is around $275.  I got lucky!  I found one.  Even better, it is a BRAND NEW, in-the-box A.meda pump matching my criteria of a double, electric pump (called Purely Yours).  I’ll pick it up on Thursday.  If I get there and don’t like the looks of it, I will walk away.  If it looks OK and I get home and don’t feel 100% comfortable, I’ll buy new tubing (even though she said that it is still in the box).  No harm, no foul and I’m saving myself more than $200 with this CL find!

Of course, this afternoon, I read an article talking about why women who are trying to exclusively breast feed should NOT pump and that made me wary about my decision to buy one but that’s just one person’s opinion.  We are taking a breast-feeding class at our hospital in a couple of weeks and I’ll ask them about that topic.  I also have decided that if I find that I don’t use the pump that I can re-sell it on CL.

**NOTE: I am NOT an expert on breast pumps and any health and safety information relating to breast pumps.  This information is solely what I have researched and with my pregnancy brain and generally sometimes known air headedness, I could be very wrong on some of this information.  Please make any decisions with care and input from a “real” expert 😉

In Serious Nesting Mode


This morning I couldn’t sleep in past 7am, so I came downstairs and went onto A.mazon and D.iapers and ordered all sorts of things we need for Roo.  My nesting is in full effect!

  • Nasal Aspirator – the one that you suck the end of and the boogers come out – sounds so disgusting but apparently works really well
  • Rectal Thermometer
  • Nail Scissors – I heard that while they sound more intimidating than nail clippers that scissors are actually easier to control and there are fewer nicks on your baby’s fingers (yikes!)
  • M.ustela Hair and Body Wash as well as Lotion – a friend uses this and her baby smells so yummy!
  • Nursing Pads from L.ansinoh – I got a small pack because there is much debate whether these or the M.edela ones are better, so I decided to try these ones first and if I don’t like them, I’ll try the other
  • B.ella B N.ipple Cream
  • Br.avado Silk Seamless Nursing Bra – I really need some new bras so I decided to go with a general sizing bra in hopes that it’ll fit once my milk comes in
  • Infant hair brush and comb set
  • Soothie pacifier by A.vent – I don’t know if we’ll use it but I decided that I’d rather have it and be prepared than not have it and wish that I did!

I really wanted to buy a night light but the one that I want is sold out so I need to wait for it to come in again.

I already have gotten the “big” gear and so I’m starting to focus on the little stuff!  This is actually fun!

One of those baby planning emails that I get told me a few weeks ago that I need to start packing my hospital bag.  WHAT?!  Already?  I’m not ready but I’ve started to think about it.  This morning, I also placed an order for non-slip socks for the hospital.  I think I’ve got the rest pretty much here at home (other than snacks for MH and post-partum granny pa.nties, which I need to go buy) and just need to choose a bag and put everything in it.

Of the “little” things that babies require, moms who’ve been there and done that, is there anything that I’m missing that I should purchase before Roo arrives?

Oh!  We ordered our glider yesterday.  I found an independent baby store in Bellevue and found a B.est Chair glider that is under $500 and comfortable for me.  I let MH choose the fabric that he liked the best so that he could feel a part of the process (not one that I would have chosen but it doesn’t really matter to me).  So, we have all of the major nursery items that Roo needs for her room.  We’ll make a final decision on which shade of lavender to paint her room today.  I got a call yesterday from the delivery company and Roo’s dresser/changing table arrives later this week.

It’s all coming together!

Hope you all are having a great weekend!

30 Week Update (wrote yesterday but didn’t publish for some reason)


We’ve moved!  The unpacking is going VERY slowly.  Being 30 weeks pregnant makes for a very slow lady.  I unpack one box and I’m exhausted.  I have to stop and take a break.  We are in love with our new house and are slowly getting used to living in a space that is twice as large as we are used to before.  We lived in a one bedroom apartment in San Francisco and then a two bedroom apartment in Seattle and now here we are with a four bedroom place in the ‘burbs!  It’s a lot of fun but will have some empty rooms for a while.

On the baby related front, we changed our minds about which room we will turn into Roo’s nursery.  It is one that is currently a green that is not a green that is attractive for a nursery.  Over the weekend we decided on either a pale green or pale lavender.  I think we’ll go with the lavender.  I love it and MH looked up the psychology of colors in nurseries and lavender is one that is highly recommended as a good nursery color!  I’m anxiously awaiting the delivery of our nursery furniture and can’t wait for it to arrive!  I’ll try to take some before and after photos of the nursery so that I can keep a record of this first project we tackle in our home!

I had an OB appointment this week and everything looked great!  My blood pressure was low the last time but this week it is back to normal.  My fundal measurement is on track with 30 weeks and the heartbeat sounds awesome.  We are down to single digit weeks – only 9 weeks to go (64 days)!  I can’t believe it.  This pregnancy is flying by and I’m so excited to meet Roo!

One of my biggest anxieties about delivering Roo is the pain management.  Ideally, I’d love to have a vaginal delivery with minimal pain medication but I also am open to knowing that I might not be able to handle the pain!  I have a high pain tolerance but this might be an entirely different level of pain than I can tolerate.  That said, I’m worried about the anesthesia and its effectiveness and side effects.  I’ve had some bad reactions to it in the past and so I raised my concerns with my OB.  She said that the delivery of anesthesia for an epidural are different from other types and so I may have zero problems.  She suggested that I request to speak with the anesthesiologist as soon as I arrive at the hospital – before my pain management needs kick in (if they kick in) so that I can have a coherent conversation with him/her.  Having the conversation with my OB helped a lot.  I feel better already and I’m so glad that she listened to my concerns, addressed them and had a suggestion to help.  I really LOVE her!

Apparently, some insurance companies offer coverage for breast pumps.  I decided to look into it with mine.  Apparently mine does cover a breast pump but it requires a doctor’s prescription and it is only for a manual pump.  Darn it!  That means I need to pay out-of-pocket because I want an electric pump.  It’s OK.  I’ll get over it.  Are you one of the lucky ladies who got their breast pump covered by insurance?  I’ll try to do a separate entry on how I am choosing which breast pump I want based on my lifestyle.

Happy weekend, friends!!

How far along? 30 weeks, 6 days
Total weight gain:
22 pounds since my first OB appointment – I lost .2 pounds since my last appointment
Maternity clothes? 
Yes and I really need to buy some new bras because my small boobs are popping out of my bras
Stretch marks? None, knock on wood with the help of lots of lotion
Sleep: Not too bad this week – just one night of bad sleep so far, knock wood
Best moment this week: Hearing Roo’s heart beating away!
Miss anything? Good sleep!!
Movement: YES – tons!
Food cravings: Nothing specific but anything sweet like fruit and candy!
Anything making you queasy or sick:  Nope – but I do continue to have at least one gaggy moment a day
Labor Signs: None
Belly Button in or out?  Almost all out
Wedding rings on or off?  On
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy and getting nervous about birth
Looking forward to: Roo’s arrival

(early) 29 Week Update


Hi ladies (and any gents reading),

This update is a little early and may be the last for as many days as it takes to get Internet access into our new home.  We move tomorrow!!  The Salvation Army arrives this morning to remove a sleeper sofa that we are donating (our new sofa from PB arrives on Friday)!  The movers arrive tomorrow morning between 9-9:30am.  Wish me luck as I told MH to go to work as I’d rather have him at home after Roo arrives than to help with the move.  A friend is supposed to help me tomorrow once we get to the new house but I’m not 100% sure she can – it’ll be OK just exhausting!  We got the keys to the house over the weekend and have gone over several times with our little car loaded up!

We made a final decision on which room will be Roo’s nursery (the largest of the three bedrooms) and the one just down the hall from our bedroom – we’ll be able to hear her and get to her quickly as we stumble sleepily to get her 😉  We do need to paint her new room because it is currently an unattractive green color – we’re thinking either a pale yellow, cream or pale green.  We need to get some samples and see which we like best.

I also pulled the trigger on Roo’s nursery furniture.  We went with the K.endall Low Profile Crib and the C.atalina extra wide dresser from PBK.  We’ll get the matching bookshelf at a later date.  Once we decide on the room color, we’ll choose the glider fabric and go with the PBK glider as well.  I just needed to be done with it and I was looking at too many options.  Since I’ve been able to see the PBK items or at least similar things, I went with it.  We ordered the white pieces.  I also went ahead and ordered the converter for the crib so we don’t have to worry about it not being available when we’re ready to move her into the toddler bed.  It seems so far away but from I understand she’s going to grow up so fast before our eyes!

As we get further along and closer and closer to the actual birth, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about my “birth plan.”  I’m sure it will change especially after our birthing class too.  I’ll write some more about it in the coming days but my largest concern is the use of any anesthesia.  I’ve had some bad reactions to it in the past and I’m worried how my body reacts to this too.  Again, I’ll write about it in the coming days.

I’ve also realized that I’ve done VERY little reading about becoming a parent.  The ONLY book that I’ve read is the Happiest Baby on the Block book.  I think I need to read some more.  Are there any breast-feeding books that you recommend?  Any other parenting books for infants that are must haves for a new parents’ bookshelf?  Thanks in advance!

So, I guess I’ll leave you with my latest stats below and I’ll be back online in a few days (hopefully) after the move is done!

How far along? 29 weeks, 4 days
Total weight gain:
22 pounds since my first OB appointment and growing
Maternity clothes? 
Yes
Stretch marks? None, knock on wood with the help of lots of lotion
Sleep: Terrible this week and I suspect through the end!  Though the last two nights have been pretty decent
Best moment this week: Not pregnancy related but getting close to moving into our new house!
Miss anything? Good sleep!!
Movement: YES – tons!
Food cravings: Nothing specific but anything sweet like fruit and candy!
Anything making you queasy or sick:  Nope – but I do continue to have at least one gaggy moment a day
Labor Signs: None
Belly Button in or out?  Almost all out
Wedding rings on or off?  On
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy and getting nervous about birth
Looking forward to: Roo’s arrival

28 Week Update


Well, well, well!  Here we are at 28 weeks and 6 days.  Only 8 more weeks until Roo is considered full-term.  I’m so glad because I’m ready to be a Mama to Roo and I’m ready to hold her in my arms.

This week, I met a new friend from an online group that I somewhat actively participate in.  She lives about 45 minutes from our house in Seattle and has a 6 month old baby girl.  Her baby is so freaking adorable!  Something during that visit clicked in me and I came home just wanting Roo to arrive as quickly as possible.  Her baby girl, Clara, is the cutest thing ever (until Roo arrives) and snuggled with mew when I held her.  I was so excited because I felt like I learned a lot from my new friend.  She is a cloth diapering mom – not hardcore but enough that I felt like OK I can do it too.  She uses gDiapers with the cloth and flushable insert.  I had been thinking about gDiapers but she really turned me onto them.  The company offers a package for 6 of them for under $100, so it’s a great way to start and try them!  She also helped me realize that I need a low profile crib.  Clara’s nursery was adorable and I would be a crazy copy cat chick if I went out and bought everything that they had in her nursery so I won’t do it but I do really like the look and hope to have a nursery as cute as hers for Roo.

Seeing Clara’s low profile crib made me realize that I needed to cancel my adorable crib order and start over.  Reviewing the measurements of the sleigh crib that was to arrive in a couple of weeks, I know that when it comes time to drop the mattress, there would be NO way I could reach Roo without a step stool of some sort.  The crib is too large for me.  So, I’m starting my crib search over.  I think I’m sticking with PBK but will now go with the Kendall Low Profile crib – still in white.  The matching dresser doesn’t get very good reviews so I think I’ll try to find something different – plus it is quite expensive so I might get something completely different.  The only concern that I have is the white at PBK isn’t a pure white, so the crib might not match any other white furniture that I purchase for her room.  What would you do?  Ignore the fact that the whites don’t match 100%?

So, I realize that I just wrote a lot about nothing relating to being 28 weeks.  Sorry!  But, I also realize that it somewhat does relate to being 28 weeks pregnant.  Roo coming into our lives is a reality and preparing for her arrival is important.  It is funny because I never imagined that I would have a nesting instinct and here I am today.  Nesting like crazy!  It must be the hormones.

Over the next couple of weeks, I’ll share my search for a cost-effective but safe organic crib mattress.  The ongoing search for the “right” glider/rocker, etc.  How I’m building and growing my cloth diaper stash (so far I have 12 cloth diapers).  And so much more fun but might be boring for you.

Today, I packed two boxes.  One of some clothes and another of some of Roo’s baby things that we’ve accumulated.  Yesterday wore me out.   I only got about 3 hours of sleep the night before and went to work at PB for four hours.  Then we went and signed the paperwork for our house and I had zero down time.  This morning I couldn’t get out of bed.  I wasted about 5 hours napping and watching TV – The Borgias is a great series!  I forced myself to eat lunch and get some things done.  It’s been not a very productive day but I’m OK with it.

This afternoon I heard from a friend of mine, Beth, who is due a little more than one month before me with a baby girl.  She has been put on modified bed rest, so I’m sending her lots of good thoughts and hope that at her next appointment they will ease up on that bed rest!  Hi Beth!

How far along? 28 weeks, 6 days
Total weight gain:
22 pounds since my first OB appointment – well there goes my goal of only gaining 25 pounds during the whole pregnancy!
Maternity clothes? 
Yes
Stretch marks? None, knock on wood
Sleep: Terrible this week – one night I only got 3 hours of sleep – Roo was kicking me all night and I just wasn’t tired
Best moment this week: Finding out that I passed the one hour glucose test!
Miss anything? Charcuterie and cheese plate!
Movement: YES – tons!  I’ve been asked to start doing kick counts each day to make sure Roo is doing OK – I don’t have to worry because she kicks me almost all day long unless she’s napping
Food cravings: Nothing specific
Anything making you queasy or sick:  Nope – but I do continue to have at least one gaggy moment a day
Labor Signs: None
Belly Button in or out?  Half is out and other half is still flat
Wedding rings on or off?  On
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy and getting nervous about birth
Looking forward to: Roo’s arrival