Does it really matter?

Hey all,

I’m clearly in nesting mode.  I’ve decided to try and purchase a lot of “gear” gently used from Craig’s List, etc. to help save on costs since Roo will only use some of these things for just a couple of months and we’re moving and need a lot of things for the new house and for Roo!

One of those items is the bouncy chair, which always reminds me of the S.ex and the City episode where Samantha babysits Brady so Miranda can go get her hair done.  If you haven’t seen it, watch it.  It is hilarious and includes s/ex toys.

So my (first world) dilemma is this: there’s Fisher Price bouncy chair on CL that is being sold for $10.  It isn’t the exact style that I want: the FP rainforest one.  Instead, it has frogs and other outdoor creatures.  But, does it really matter?  Are they made so differently?  Does a baby truly like one more than another?!  Or, does everyone get the rainforest one because everyone they know got the rainforest one and I don’t have to be a sheep that jumps off the cliff just ’cause my other sheep friends jumped off the cliff.

Any insight is greatly appreciated!


Let’s Talk About…

S.ex baby!  (There are going to be a lot of interrupted words here so I don’t get a lot of spammers on here 🙂

I might be over sharing here but I feel that I’ve been pretty authentic as a blogger and I don’t want to stop and s.ex clearly plays a big role in getting pregnant and in married life, so…hang in there with me!

I don’t know about you but my s.ex life has gone down the tubes.  It might be because MH and I are both getting older (?) or maybe it’s because dealing with more than a year of TTC interfered with our intimate life but I don’t think our s.ex life will ever be the same.  TTC is a trying and tiring experience especially when one is not getting the results desired.  I’m not sure when s.ex lost its appeal to me but it did a couple to few months after our miscarriage.

The idea of being with MH intimately is wonderful in theory but each month was a challenge for me.  I lost my true de.sire along the way.  It isn’t that I lost my de.sire for MH along the way but just knowing that se.x was a necessary thing instead of a fun activity for us didn’t help my lib.ido.  We would have marathon sperm meets egg plan cycles.  After all that intimate time, we would need a break and sometimes wouldn’t do it again until after the cycle ended.  It was tough.

After we got the great news that I was pregnant again, I was scared to do it in fear that it would cause another miscarriage.  So we held off and didn’t do it except for once or twice until we hit 12 weeks.  Things improved again temporarily but then I was overcome with the horrible morning sickness, which clearly didn’t lead to adventurous or even any s.ex for anyone in our house – LOL.

Now at 24 weeks, I’m feeling great and sex.y!  Though I haven’t been lucky to have been hit with the increased s.ex drive hormone.  I’m jealous of those who do get it during the second trimester!  Instead, my belly is getting so big and I’m becoming more and more uncomfortable.  It doesn’t help that MH prefers that we face each other…I’ll leave it at that 🙂

It worries me that this is the start of a decline in our s.ex life that may stick around until Roo is older.  I love MH dearly and I also love myself a good time 😉  I hope that everything goes back to “normal” again soon!

Any thoughts and tips on helping a girl’s s.ex drive improve while pregnant?!  Did this happen to you or am I the only weird one out there?

Registry Wishes

When MH and I got married, we had a private and quiet wedding ceremony.  In spite of not inviting friends or extended family, people still wanted to share in the excitement of our marriage and so we were encouraged to register for gifts.  We did but it felt awkward especially because we married at an older age and as fairly successful professionals, we had most everything that we needed to start our life together.  Now, as soon-to-be new parents, we are registering once again.  This time, we have NOTHING baby related in our possession and need all the help we can get!

When considering and creating our baby registry, we decided on two things: 1) keep it simple and 2) put only what we absolutely need on it.  I did a lot of research when pulling it together.  It actually is three different registeries, by the way!  We registered at Babies R Us (BRU), Amazon and a local shop for our cloth diapers.  I chose three different places to register because BRU doesn’t carry everything that I wanted but Amazon does and I really like the cloth diapers that a local Seattle small business carries.

I chose my items based on the advice of friends and from recommendations from the Baby Bargains book that I’ve written about before.  I actually found that book to be incredibly useful.  Some advice given to me includes not registering for a high chair as Roo won’t need one until she’s at least six months old, maybe longer, skipping the diaper wipes warmer as it grows mold, not buying a changing table and just using the top of a dresser, etc.  Incredibly useful information that I wouldn’t really think of myself.

Some of the larger (aka more important) items on our registry include:

  • Chicco Keyfit 22 carseat – it fits in the backseat of our car, which many other carseats don’t
  • UppaBaby Cruz Stroller plus the infant seat adapter
  • Graco Pack-n-Play – will be used as a bassinet in our bedroom during the first few months
  • Ergo Carrier
  • EuroBath

Some of the smaller items (aka things we could survive without) that we’ve registered for include:

  • Aden + Anais Swaddle Blankets
  • Skip Hop Treetop Friends Activity Gym
  • Fisher Price Papasan Cradle Swing – Little Lamb
  • Philips Avent Dect Baby Monitor with Temperature Sensor (audio only)

These are just some of the items but honestly there aren’t that many more on our list.  I put some smaller, less expensive items on there too for different price points such as Sophie the Giraffe, etc.  If you are really interested in what I fully registered for leave a comment and be sure your email is included and I’ll email you links to the registeries!

For those of you also building your registry, please share any items that you’ve heard are MUST have items!  Note that there are few baby diapering items as I’m cloth diapering and those appear on the cloth diaper registry!

Roo in Sin City!

We had a great time in Las Vegas.  It’s an interesting experience being in Sin City at 22 weeks of pregnancy.  Needless to say that I got a LOT of stares.  I’m assuming it was because a) I am visibly pregnant, b) I was looking exceptionally good this past weekend or c) I had something hanging off of my face that I was unaware of! 🙂

I felt bad for Little Roo because I, and therefore she, inhaled a LOT of smoky air.  The casinos are so bad and the air quality just sucks.  I promised her that I would only breathe clean air between now and when she is born.

I also got very little sleep.  I admit that I could have gone to bed earlier every night but it’s hard to in Las Vegas especially the last night there when our neighbors decided to have a party in their room from 2-5am.  I wanted to call them and ask why they were partying in their room when they have the Strip to visit and tons of nightclubs.  I don’t get it.

The conference that I supported was amazing.  There were 550 young adult cancer survivors there.  I am used to being around a lot of survivors because it is my work and my passion but this time it felt strange.  Cancer survivors face not only cancer but infertility.  I have to admit that I felt very awkward being there and being visibly pregnant.  I am not a cancer survivor.  I have the utmost respect for cancer survivors especially young adults…

It was nice to have MH go with me.  Even though I was working and didn’t get to spend a lot of time with him, it was nice that we could spend my downtime together.  We snuck in a little pool time, checked out some of the other casinos and had a lovely dinner at Bouchon in The Venetian.

It was amazing how many people bring babies and toddlers to Las Vegas.  I’m not judging.  Ok, I’m judging…but why bring such a small child to a place where it thrives off of alcohol, smoking, gambling and sex?  Yes, there are family-friendly activities to be found but for the most part this is an adult playground.  This trip was Roo’s first and last trip to Vegas as a little one.  We’ll take her back when she’s 21!  Though MH said that he doesn’t want to see his daughter dressed like a tramp as so many of the women we saw there.

I think we’ll stick to Disney – the true child’s playground 🙂

In baby-related news, I finished my registr(ies).  I’ll do a post this week about them and how I chose which items to put on them.

Just Outed Myself on Facebook

My friends who I’ve shared with about this pregnancy have been patiently keeping our secret for about two months.  So, I decided that it’s about time to out myself on Facebook.  For no rhyme or reason, other than it’s a gorgeous day in Seattle, I chose to do it just a few minutes ago.

My message read: Around August 4, I will make my mom, @hername, a grandmother again!  We’re halfway there and very excited!

I decided to make it fun for my mom too.  It’s hysterical that she’s on Facebook, first of all!  And, second, she says she’s on it to keep track of us kids and her grandkids – my sister has kids who are old enough to be on it.

It’s a relief to come “out” and to be able to share this fun news with all of our friends.  It is also scary.  What if something goes wrong between now and August 4?  What if…?  What if….?!  I need to stop living in the what if and enjoy…so I’m going to enjoy this and go eat a girl scout cookie!

Happy Friday, friends!

20 Week Update

MH laughs at me because I love countdowns.  I countdown everything (days ’til vacation starts, days ’til it ends [f’ed up to countdown when vacation ends, right?!], days ’til our wedding, days ’til Roo is born!).  And, waiting to give birth and the countdown for this life experience is the biggest countdown of them all!  This week, I hit the half way mark of pregnancy.  Eeeek – in a good way!  It also means I’ve hit the halfway mark of the second trimester.

This morning, I had my 20 week update with my OB.  It was a super quick visit with her.  I didn’t have many questions for her, she did a quick check up, answered some brief questions and sent me on my way!  Roo’s heartbeat was hard to find because she was moving around so much- we could hear her kicking.  When my doctor did get it, her heart was beating fast at 166 bpm.  She’s an active little one 🙂

I asked about sleeping positions because sleeping on my left side is really giving me an ache and she said that I can sleep on my right as well – just not completely on my back as that hinders blood flow to the placenta and umbilical cord.  So, I’ll see if I can find a better position.  Also, she said that I can take some Tylenol PM and see if that helps.  If it doesn’t and I get to a point where I’m not getting much sleep at all, she will prescribe me some Ambien.

This week also is a milestone in that I am really feeling Roo move around – not all the time though.  I can feel her best at night, when I should be sleeping.  Last night at 2am, I was laying on the couch watching reality TV with my hands on my belly.  Roo was kicking like crazy and was kicking so hard that I know if MH had his hands on my belly, he would be able to feel her too.  I’ve got to admit that feeling Roo move around inside me kind of freaks me out.  Am I crazy?

That raises a point that I’ve mentioned before…in spite of the challenges in the road to get to this pregnancy and this point in pregnancy, I don’t think I like being pregnant.  It is something that I’ve dreamed of for my entire life.  I pretended I was a mommy when I was little starting with a pillow under my shirt to give me a belly.  I thought I would LOVE being pregnant but I have to admit that I really don’t.  I can’t wait until Roo arrives on or around August 4 and I’m trying my very hardest to embrace and enjoy pregnancy.  One of my email updates says that these are the best weeks of pregnancy and to enjoy them but I can honestly say that I don’t think so.  I think my best day of pregnancy will be the day that Roo is born.

In the meantime, I am trying to focus on preparing for Roo’s arrival.  Two friends back East have stepped up and are offering to throw a shower for me – yay!!  I’m hoping to meet a friend who I met online and who has struggled along side me with a loss – she is due a month before me!  I’ll get to see my mom and dad.  I haven’t seen my dad since MH and I got married – my dad has been working a lot and flitting around the world with my mom.  I can’t wait!!  I got my ticked today and was able to use miles and even will be able to fly to DC in First Class!  I paid extra to upgrade to Premium on the return flight.  I wanted to ensure Roo and I are comfortable on these long flights.

Because my 20 week appointment was today I’ll give you my weekly update early.  Roo is the size of a cantaloupe and that’s very clear by the much larger bump I’m sporting these days 🙂  I’ll take an updated bump photo and post it this week.

How far along? 20 weeks, 3 days
Total weight gain:
Up a total of 10 pounds since my very first OB appointment
Maternity clothes? 
Stretch marks? None, still slathering up every day with cocoa butter lotion
Sleep: It’s bad…hoping to get some relief with a new sleeping position and possibly some Tylenol PM, as needed
Best moment this week: Really feeling Roo move around and be super active in there!
Miss anything? A good night’s sleep
Movement: YES – tons!
Food cravings: Sweets
Anything making you queasy or sick:  Nothing in particular – just get nauseated when I don’t have a full belly
Labor Signs: None
Belly Button in or out?  In but my belly button is nearly completely flattened
Wedding rings on or off?  On
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy, happy, happy!
Looking forward to: MH feeling Roo for the first time

Let’s Talk About Pelvic Floor Exercises

Pelvic Floor Exercises also known as kegel exercises are hard for me to remember to do. I know how important they are to help maintain the strength of the uterus and the bladder. Maintaining the strength of my uterus is important but my bladder is what I care about more. Let me tell you a story…

Three years ago, I broke my foot. I’d been training for a half marathon and was running a lot. I went with friends to Alta in Utah for a long weekend of skiing and struggled with my ski boots. The weekend after my ski trip, I fell ill with the flu. A friend from DC was in San Francisco for work and I dragged myself out of bed after three days of not leaving my house to meet her for dinner. On my way back to my car, I stepped off a curb and fell to the ground for no reason whatsoever (or so I thought). Totally embarrassing to be caught falling in front of a bunch of strangers, I quickly got up and drove home. I walked up the three flights of stairs to my apartment (no elevator) and once home looked down at my foot to see why it was bothering me. Well, it was about triple the size that it should be and quickly turning black and blue. To keep this long story short, it was broken. I probably had a stress fracture that was exacerbated by the half marathon training and the skiing. It was a non-weight bearing injury, which meant I was on crutches and off my foot for a while. A friend picked me up for dinner one night and we met other friends in Berkeley – which is across the Bay Bridge and about 30 minutes away (depending on traffic). We ate and drank well that evening and on the way home we got caught in traffic. I had to pee. At home, I struggled as usual to get up to my apartment. I was tipsy (OK, I was probably drunk) and it took me about 10 minutes longer than it should have to get up those stairs…I started to giggle and laugh at how ridiculous my situation was – alone in the stairwell of my apartment building, urgently needing to pee. Needless to say, I didn’t make it to the toilet. I was laughing too hard at myself and peed my pants in the entryway of my apartment.

Sooooo….I realize that this example is an extreme example of my fear of peeing in my pants! BUT, it certainly is possible! I need to practice my kegels every day. I need to remind myself to do better. I need to not pee my pants 🙂

Oh, and in between, MH and I met and started dating 🙂

19 Week Update

We’re still floating on air about finding out that Roo is a girl.  After all the consideration of not sharing the sex with friends and family until Roo’s birth day, we have been eagerly telling just everyone that she’s a girl!  What was I thinking that I could keep this fun news a secret from people?!  My parents are so excited – my mom has already started shopping.  I told my brother and sister-in-law (the ones who just had a baby girl).  My sister-in-law is going to send us a box of baby girl clothes – the first nice thing she has offered to do in a long time!  We’ve also started to share with our friends as well.

I have to admit though that you – my online friends – are more excited than my friends in real life.  I don’t know why.  It could be that they are in a different place than me – either having had their kids a while ago or single and dating.  Whatever the reason, I’m grateful for you and your excitement for me!

The other BIG news from this week is that I am confident that I’ve felt Roo move.  I’ve had inklings that I can feel her but this week those little movements/kicks are more consistent and stronger.  I love it and I can’t wait until they get even stronger!!  It’s a strange feeling that I’m “not alone” but it is comforting to know that she’s getting bigger and is healthy in there.

I don’t have a bump photo this week to share.  I think I’ll do them every other week but we’ll see.  Roo is the size of a mango this week and I still need to find a different way to demonstrate how big she is getting.  I’m still grossed out by comparing her to the size of something that I might eat.  Any suggestions?

How far along? 19 weeks, 5 days
Total weight gain:
Up a total of 4.4 pounds since my very first OB appointment
Maternity clothes? 
Yes, I need to find some dresses – I really want a maxi dress or two but I have no idea where to look for inexpensive ones that fit a petite 5’1″ woman – do you know where I can go?
Stretch marks? None, still slathering up every day with cocoa butter lotion
Sleep: It’s 3am – ’nuff said!
Best moment this week: Finding out that Roo is a girl!
Miss anything? Being able to eat regular meals
Movement: YES – FINALLY!!!
Food cravings: Sour cream and onion potato chips and anything sweet!
Anything making you queasy or sick:  Poultry – scared to try it again
Gender Predictions: A girl! I was right!!
Labor Signs: None
Belly Button in or out?  In but my belly button is nearly completely flattened
Wedding rings on or off?  On
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy, happy, happy!
Looking forward to: Reaching the mid-point of pregnancy on Saturday!!

We’re on team….

First, the ultrasound was wonderful.  Roo is doing so well and has grown so very much – pretty much tripled in size since our last ultrasound.  All the body parts, organs and everything were how they were supposed to be.  I was nervous like usual when we first went in.  So nervous that my bladder was extra full and I had to empty it before the ultrasound a bit.  She asked me to hold a little in and I tried but not sure if I was really able but everything worked out fine.  I think I get worried that something will have happened to Roo since the last ultrasound but…there was nothing to worry about at all!  We saw all four chambers of the heart functioning perfectly and it was a great relief.

When we walked into the room, I pulled out our envelope with a piece of paper in it and asked her to write down Roo’s sex if she could tell and seal it up without telling us.  At the end of the anatomy scan, she said that she was going to look for the gender and to turn our heads if we didn’t want to see.  We did!

As soon as we left, we were giddy.  We both felt a huge sense of relief that this scan went as well as it did.  We also felt giddy because in my bag I had the envelope containing a secret that would change our lives 🙂

We headed over to the Baby Gap and had to waste some time at a coffee shop before the store opened.  I was jittery and anxious to get into the store.  We only waited about 15 minutes but it was seriously the longest 15 minutes in my life!

We both chose some outfits that we each liked and narrowed it down.  We ended up with a really cute little boy’s outfit that we both selected and a little girl’s dress that MH chose – totally not appropriate for a newborn but that’s OK.  The cashier was really nice and went along with our plan to open the envelope and read what we are having a package up the corresponding outfit.  MH and I checked out some more clothes for fun – he was really cute and said that he was glad we didn’t know yet because he knew that I’d go nuts shopping right away!

Once we had our very special gift to ourselves in hand, we got back in our car and drove to a quiet spot sitting under a beautiful blossoming tree and opened the box.  Inside was…

A really cute dress 🙂

We are having a GIRL!  Team pink all the way!!!

Baby Dreams While Pregnant

Up until last night, I’ve always dreamed of finding out the sex of Roo but wake up right before we find out.  Last night/early this morning, I finally had a dream with a conclusion.  I dreamed that we are having a girl!

In about two hours, we find out.  We’re going to have the tech write it on a piece of paper and put it into an envelope.  After, MH and I are going to Baby Gap, we’ll choose one baby boy outfit and one baby girl outfit and have the cashier look in the envelope, box up what we’re having and then wrap it.  (This is an idea, I “stole” from one of you and I can’t remember who now. Thank you to whoever you are 🙂

I’m so excited!!!

So, stay tuned.  I’ll let you all know what we’re having before the end of the day.

Any guesses from you all?!