Sleep has been elusive since the second trimester of pregnancy. Roo turns 6 months old on December 21 and her adjusted age will be about 4.5 months. The “books” say that babies can be “sleep trained” when they reach 4 months old. I’ve been reading some of the preemie boards and many preemie parents don’t sleep train until their babies adjusted age is 6-9 months old. So, I’m not sure what is correct. I’ll ask her pediatrician at her next appointment.
The thing is that she still wakes up to eat throughout the night. I don’t believe that she’s ready for any kind of sleep training. Right now her “schedule” (on a good day), if you want to call it that is as follows starting with when she falls asleep in my arms:
7:30/8pm – goes to sleep in my arms
8:30/8:45pm – I put her in the nap nanny next to our bed
Sometime between 1-3am – wakes up to nurse
6:45/7am – wakes to nurse
7:30-8am – plays for a little while
8:30/9a, – nurses and naps for 30 minutes to 1 hour
11am/12pm – nurses and naps for 30 minutes
1:30/2pm – nurses and naps between 1-3 hours (3 hours if I nap with her)
If she naps for 3 hours, she’s awake until she goes to sleep for the night; if she naps for less, she may take another cat nap before bedtime
That’s a good night schedule. The bad nights are when she gets up every 2.5-3 hours to nurse, like when she was first home from the hospital. That happens around once a week (though last week, she did that several nights in a row).
Here’s what is killing me: she only will nap in my arms. If I put her in her nap nappy or her bassinet or even on the floor on a blanket, she will sleep for 5-10 minutes and then wake up. If she sleeps in my arms especially if I take a nap with her, she sleeps for significantly longer. It drives me crazy but I want her to get sleep. I’m an enabler. I know it. But, it started when she was tiny and having major reflux problems. Now, I can’t stop.
At night, she sleeps in her nap nanny (and sometimes we do full on co-sleeping in our bed, usually after the 3am feeding – I hold her upright for 30 minutes after each nursing session so she doesn’t wake up from reflux – it helps). The reflux is getting better and she is able to handle it at night much better without getting as distressed as she used to become.
I’m ready to sleep train her so she sleeps in her own room all night but I’m worried. I’m worried that it’s too early and I’m worried about her spitting up/reflux. When we put her in her crib, I want her on her back to sleep. I don’t know if she’s ready and I don’t want to traumatize her. I bought the book the No Cry Sleep Solution. It should arrive any day now and I can’t wait to read it. I’ll read some more preemie boards to see what other parents did and I’ll see what her pediatrician says.
Any advice from other preemie parents who’ve BTDT is greatly appreciated! Any advice on getting Roo to sleep for longer than 10 minutes on her own for a nap is also greatly appreciated!! When/if you comment, please remember her adjusted age is just 4 months old…!