Before I get started tonight, I wanted to introduce myself, properly. My name is Michelle. It’s really nice to meet you! Now that is out of the way….
Feeling more confident about the reality of Roo coming into our lives in about 22 weeks, I’ve started to read the Baby Bargains book (BBb) that I bought and am trying to wrap my arms and head around the amount of stuff a baby needs. MH and I are minimalists for the most part and so adding some more “stuff” to our life is hard, so we will be getting only what is necessary. I suspect though that my parents will more than make up for what we don’t purchase on our own. My mom is already salivating at the idea of shopping for her grandchild.
It is overwhelming where to begin. Even though I’m not 100% confident that I will have a baby shower, we will still register if only for the fact that it is a good place to manage our list of things. I’ve heard that Buy Buy Baby is a fantastic store but sadly there isn’t one close to us. However, there is a Babies ‘R Us, so we will most likely register there.
The big items are the ones that I’m most concerned about at the moment. They take the most research. The BBb helps with a lot of it but I’m finding that I still need to do more. For example, car seats. There are infant car seats and there are convertible car seats. The BBb recommends starting with an infant car seat and then upgrading once the baby outgrows the infant seat. However, that means twice the cost of car seats, which is OK if you plan to have more than one baby but I’m not so sure I want to get pregnant again or if even if we wanted to have another if I could since Roo is a little miracle! Then to figure out which car seat. How much does it weigh? I’m petite and if the car seat is heavy on its own plus a growing baby, I won’t be able to carry some of them for long. Also, we have a car with a very small backseat. A lot of car seats seem to not fit into small cars. Darn Audi for having a small back seat! Then some car seats are safer than others. How do you choose the safest with the one that fits into your car along with one that isn’t too heavy with the one that….I could go on. I think you get the picture.
Don’t let me get started on strollers 😉
So, the next few weeks will be spent doing a LOT of research, reading and testing. I hope to find a store that will allow us to try out the car seats in our car to make sure they fit.
Here’s our priority list of “things” for Roo:
- Car seat – this will be a gift from my parents
- Carrier (e.g. Ergo or Baby Bjorn with infant insert)
- Dresser – I think we’ll skip the changing table
- Clothes – I think my mom will take care of these for us!
- Cloth Diapers
Am I missing anything really critical? I know there are the smaller items like a breast-feeding pillow, nail clippers, snot bulb, pacifiers, etc. But, I’m more concerned about the bigger things.
As Roo gets older, we’ll add the other necessary items (e.g., high chair). But, I want to try to keep Roo’s infant items to a minimum.
On a side note, some of you may be aware of a “debate” going on in the infertility blogging world between two bloggers. I won’t go into the details but if you want to read more check out Stirrup Queen’s blog. A lot of my readers have jumped into the debate and I respect their reasons why but I think I’ll sit this one out. I’m more passive and hate conflict – I’m a classic middle child wanting everyone to get along. I can sympathize with each party’s side and I don’t think that there is a clear answer. The Internet is a complicated and developing “world” that continues to evolve. The world of infertility blogging is a community that brought me a lot of support and hope. I hate to see it splitting and dividing, which because of this situation is showing its cracks. I hope that everyone can come together. We as women are emotional and extremely sensitive beings. Probably this community is even more sensitive and emotional because of the topic of infertility, loss, parenting. It’s so hard. Again, I’m staying out of the fray and only hope that everyone can come together again.